The best books on matrescence and becoming a mother
Mags Salton's own reading list for becoming a mother: Lucy Jones's Matrescence and eight more books, with who each suits and when to read it.
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identity
8 essays
How matrescence is like adolescence, and how it isn't
Matrescence is often compared to adolescence. What brain scans of mothers and teens show, where the comparison breaks, and does pregnancy shrink your brain?
Mum guilt: where it comes from and how to let go
Mum guilt (or mom guilt) is not a verdict on you. Where it comes from, how it differs from shame, the research on working mums, and how to let go.
Is it normal not to enjoy motherhood?
Yes, it is common. 84 per cent of mothers hide their real struggles when asked how they are. What that number says about what you are going through.
How to not lose yourself in motherhood
You have not lost yourself. You are in the biggest identity change of your life, and nobody told you it was coming. Here is what comes next.
Maternal ambivalence: why you feel conflicting emotions after birth
Maternal ambivalence is feeling that motherhood is hard and extraordinary at once. Why both are true, and how where you point your attention changes it.
Your identity transformation and the butterfly study
Do butterflies remember being caterpillars? Scientists asked. The answer is extraordinary, and it changes how you understand what is happening to you.
From inner critic to inner coach
Scientists now frame mum brain as cognitive enhancement. Why that changes what you say to yourself, and how to turn your inner critic into a coach.